103. Living Alone For A Month

Dear Readers,

In March, I had the opportunity to live alone for like thirty days. I had to leave my family and come back to my house in another city. I have always wanted to do this. I have always wanted to live alone and be independent. I knew the struggles of being alone, and I prepared myself for it. But did I prepare myself enough? I’m not so sure.

One of the biggest learnings of this experience would be that I can finally say that I have the confidence to live alone. And now, I know that I can pull it off.

I knew living alone will be very hard, and that’s why I wanted to do it. The one thing no one tells you about living alone (especially if you’ve lived your entire life in a bubble created by your family) is that you will have to pick up the slack on your own. You’re going to lose track of time. And no one is going to be there to discipline you.

I ended up with no structure to my day. I ended up eating a lot of junk. I ended up skipping meals. I didn’t drink enough water. I had to get through something extremely emotional all alone. I didn’t have a proper sleep cycle. I worked out for like 2/30 days. I only worked on things that had deadlines. I didn’t put any effort into doing anything productive/fun.

And during this period, it felt like time was not my friend. I wasn’t able to appropriately gauge the passage of time. I wasn’t paying attention to how much time had passed, and before I knew it, it’s been 30 days.

Today, on my last day of staying alone, there’s not much I can do because after this, I will have people around me, people who will keep me in check. But this was my experience, and there’s so much I learnt about what I can and should do and what I shouldn’t do and prepare myself (accordingly).

I hope that April ends up being a better month in all aspects (for me). I’d love to know your thoughts on the blog. How have you all been? How was March for you? How would you like your April to go? I hope you all have a great month ahead.

Regards,
Realistic Beginner.

16 thoughts on “103. Living Alone For A Month

  1. Good for you ! Sounds like you learned a lot. You’ll learn some self discipline, structure , new habits if you try. You can practice that at home even though you’re not alone . With my large family , homeschooling, and a disabled child , I’m almost never alone in my house . So I have to go to the trails for solitude .

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  2. Living alone, just like living with others, has pros and cons. You get your own space. No one to nag about what needs to be done or when. No one else messing with your stuff or being distracting/disruptive.

    But at the same time, there is no one else to help with chores. No one to remind you of something you forgot. No one to help out when life gets crazy and a second pair of hands would be helpful.

    It’s just you.

    Having lived alone and with others multiple times, I’m surprised that I still learn lessons from each experience I go through. During my time alone, I am reminded of my strength and abilities. That I AM able to do things and can be independent and self-sufficient. I am also reminded about why structure and schedules are so important to me and how I function. Without making a to-do list in the morning, I flounder through my day and haphazardly accomplish things. I lack the focus and intention that my list gives me.

    When I live with others I am reminded of the perspectives of others. I am reminded about why compromise and communication are important and how to be empathic and understanding.

    I am glad to read that you feel you learned something. I feel that’s what life is all about. Learning and growing and taking the good with the bad because even the bad can have lessons hidden within it that make us better than who we were.

    ❀

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    1. I completely agree. No matter how easy or difficult the experience is- we always learn something. Thank you for this lovely comment. Hope you and your family and friends are well and safe πŸ™‚

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  3. Home alone πŸ˜…

    March was good. My 13th month at home, not alone 😊 Let us hope that April too passes peacefully πŸ™

    All the best to you too RB πŸ˜ŠπŸ€—

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  4. Hi! I read your post with so much interest because I have been living “alone” for so long as a priest. The past nine years, 2011-2021 February 15, I was totally alone in my rectory especially when pandemic happened.

    I thought i have been used to living alone not until the lockdown of pandemic: i did have so many bouts with loneliness and other things short of depression. But I was able to pull through because of structures I have had as a priest like regular schedule to follow.

    Reading your post made me smile because i have always taken my kind of life for granted. I am amazed at how you prepared and looked forward to your living alone.

    Since my assignment to a new post as chaplain of a university, i have been told to take residence in a big parish with two resident priests and many staff members. But still, when i get to my room, i am back to living alone.

    The key i think is to always be aware of the family and community we have outside.

    I may be alone but I am not lonely.

    Cheers!

    fr nick
    (from philippines)

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    1. I love your comment so much. “I may be alone but I am not lonely” is one of the many things I will take away from this comment. Thank you for this, Sir!

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